I am linking up for the Five Minute Friday. The FMF is hosted by Kate Motaung over at our Five Minute Friday website. Today’s word prompt is “regret” We would love to have you join us.
Regret=”to mourn the loss or death of,to miss very much, to be very sorry for regrets his mistakes” (Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary)
It hangs on your tongue. It’s the words you want to say but so often are afraid to say them. Its the experiences you wish you participated in. Or the experiences you wish never happened. So often it’s the things we wish we had said or did but didn’t do.
Regret hangs in the air. Regret is not saying “I love you.” Regret is wishing we had said “I’m sorry.” Regret is holding onto hope without truly investing in it. Regret is grieving “the what should have been.” Regret is choosing one door when I feel that I should have chosen the other door. Regret is not an easy thing to say. In fact, at all costs, we like to deny our regrets. But regret is a part of life. As vulnerable humans, we all face things we regret, but are we willing to share those regrets?
I regret the times I’ve forgotten to tell my mom I love her. I regret not sharing my thoughts with someone I care about. I regret the words that I’ve often left unspoken. I regret not telling my dad about my book until after he accidentally found out about it. I regret not telling teachers I appreciated them until it was too late. There is so much I regret leaving unsaid.*
But there are things I don’t regret too. I don’t regret choosing to go to seminary to become a deacon. I don’t regret finally telling my family’s story of mental illness. I dont regret the times I’ve spoken the truth in love. Because if I didn’t say how I was feeling, I would gave regretted it. I would have wondered what if. In other words, regret is words left unsaid; bitterness that could blossom to sweetness if we chose to speak them.
What are those regrets and are you willing to speak them, to admit that we all hold regrets? It’s a part of the realities of life. Are we willing to acknowledge that? Because in acknowledging our hearts and sharing our thoughts, I truly believe that there is a peace that comes over us when we share our regrets with one another. There is power in knowing we are not alone.
*where my five minutes ended!