Happiness and the Tear Duct Maker

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a crier! I have been known to cry at a Hallmark commercial or two. I have been known to cry happy tears but also I have been known to cry sad tears too. My tears are so much a part of who I am. In fact, I often find myself apologizing for those tears. But this summer, as part of the launch team for Jennifer Dukes Lee’s new book “The Happiness Dare,” her words have given new meaning to those tears.

“You have permission to feel sorrow. It’s okay to cry. The God who gave you your smile also gave you your tear ducts.” YES! Oh how life-giving and refreshing those words have been for me as they have washed over me like the refreshing life-giving waters that claimed me in the waters of Baptism.

Yet it can be so easy for us to get caught up in the world around us…to compare ourselves to everyone around us. Are you happy? Do you deserve to be happy? Do you sometimes see yourself wanting what everyone else has? I know that I have fallen into this trap more than once in my life.
If only….. I was as good as.
If only….I had (fill in the blanks)
If only…..
The truth is that happiness is a gift given to us by God especially when we truly remember who and whose we are. I have been reminded of this as I have read through JDL’s new book “The Happiness Dare” which launches TODAY! (I am telling you go pick up a copy for yourself and at least 5 of your closest friends)

“You find happiness by being the best version of you!–Jennifer Dukes Lee

Throughout the book, I found myself realizing that God made me and each of us uniquely. As I took the happiness dare quiz, I found out that I am a giver with relater being only one point behind. I love being around people, but more importantly, I love to help others. I would much rather give than receive. I love to encourage others and don’t even always realize that I am encouraging others until they point it out to me. These traits are core to who I am as a beloved child of God. (To find out your 
 happiness style, go here: What is Your Happiness Style?)
My happiness truly comes from knowing who and whose I am; a beloved child of God. There are times that I’ll admit that I forget who I am. But God has this way of reminding us how much God loves us. “For God so loved the world that God gave God’s only Son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send God’s son into the world to condemn the world, but rather to have life through it (John 3:16).”
“Happiness is an outward expression of an inward joy that is found in Jesus”–Jennifer Dukes Lee
And that joy comes in various shapes and sizes. It comes in the blessings that God bestows upon us each and every day. It comes in both our tears and our laughter. It comes in the friends and family who encourage us and love us daily. It comes in know that we are not on this journey called life alone. It comes in being brave together! “Together is what makes us brave when life makes us scared.”
There are days that it is hard to find happiness when we turn on our television to watch the news. There is war and violence. There is hatred. Yet God calls us to find our happiness; to find the happiness that is found in an inward joy that is ultimately found in Jesus. Now that is a promise I can cling to each and every day of my life. And because of that promise and Jennifer Dukes Lee’s words, I am choosing to be happy and to partake from this day forward in #thehappinessdare. Will you join me?
I am linking up with Holly and Testimony Tuesday; Kelly and the RaRa linkup; Jennifer and Tell His Story; Holley and Coffee for your Heart and Kristin and Three Word Wednesday.


16 thoughts on “Happiness and the Tear Duct Maker

  1. Yes to happiness!!! Thank you for sharing your heart here. I loved Jennifer's book and my eyes have been opened after taking the happiness style assessment. Such good stuff! Sending you hugs!

  2. Beautiful review. Love the quotes you picked to share. I'm a cryer too and giver is one of my highest scores on the test too, as is relater (thinker being the highest). I love encouraging others too. It brings such happiness,doesn't it?

    Yes, this is something I shared in my first post about the book: "My happiness truly comes from knowing who and whose I am; a beloved child of God." But like you I need to be reminded of it and Jennifer's book was a great reminder, wasn't it?

  3. I used to tell my son to choose to be happy. At five, he stood by me as I opened my trunk to find that window cleaner had spilled all over the groceries. He looked up at me and said, "Mom, remember you have to choose to be happy." I replied, "Okay, just give me five minutes to cry it out and then I will." But it's true, because of Jesus we have a happiness that can't be destroyed. I realized how blessed I was to have those groceries in the first place and the store replaced what I lost. Thanks for your post and this reminder!

  4. "My happiness truly comes from knowing who and whose I am; a beloved child of God. There are times that I'll admit that I forget who I am. But God has this way of reminding us how much God loves us." AMEN Tara, you are such a blessing to others with your tender heart! Blessings to you!

  5. Tara, I haven't read The Happiness Dare yet but based on what you've written here, it sounds like a wonderful book. I especially like Jennifer's quote about finding happiness by being the best version of you … that's powerful! Thanks for a great review! #TellHisStory

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