I am participating in this month’s synchroblog (a blog where numerous bloggers blog on the same topic) which can be found at http://synchroblog.wordpress.com. This month’s synchroblog topic is posing this question: “What would it look like for the Church as a whole when abusive leaders are held accountable and then are reconciled? How do we do that in such a way as to let victims be heard and redemption be the end goal. What does redemption and/or reconciliation look like in real life? What does grace look like in these situations?”
“Pray then in this way: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done, as earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And do not bring us to the time of trial but rescue us from the evil one. If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”–Matthew 6:9-15
“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Or in another version, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.” How often do we go through the motions of reciting these words from the Lord’s Prayer without truly thinking about what they mean? How can we forgive those who have hurt us…especially if those we need to forgive are those who are leaders in our lives and who we have trusted?
I have been extremely lucky in my life to have leaders who have been wonderful leaders. Yet that is not always the case. In fact, several years ago, the synod I was serving in had an unfortunate situation happen. A member of the synod staff had been embezzling money from the organization. I’ll admit that many of us were hurt and had (still have) a hard time forgiving this man. However I am reminded of a story where neighbors of this man and his wife invited them over for supper. What a powerful witness of forgiveness and grace! The neighbors wanted him and his wife to know that it was about the act and not them as human beings.
The truth is that we are all created as saints and sinners. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God. Yet God promises that God will forgive us of our sins if we confess our sins. I am reminded of these words from 1 John 1:9-10; “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.”
As I think about all who have been hurt and experienced brokenness by a leader in the church, I find them (actually all of us;sinners)being convicted in the words we hear in verse ten. The Message translation captures 1 John 1:9-10 so well. “If we claim that we’re free of sin, we’re only fooling ourselves. A claim like that is errant nonsense. On the other hand, if we admit our sins–make a clean breast of them–he won’t let us down; he’ll be true to himself. He’ll forgive our sins purge us of all wrongdoing. If we claim that we’ve never sinned, we out-and-out contradict God—make a liar out of him. A claim like that only shows off our ignorance of God.”
The reality is that all of us including leaders in the church are sinful beings. We all make mistakes. Forgiveness and grace are marvelous gifts, yet I don’t believe God is telling us to forget the sin. In fact, I think God calls all of us to seek the help, counsel and forgiveness that we need. This is shown to us through this wonderful humble servant leader God’s son Jesus Christ. Jesus was not afraid to sit with tax collectors and sinners. Jesus wasn’t afraid to pick up basin and towel and wash the feet of all God’s people even those who would later deny him and betray him. Jesus’ example of humble servanthood is the ultimate example of God’s grace. And by the humble example of Jesus, we all especially leaders in the church are called to embody a life of humble servanthood too.
“So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has passed away; see, everything has become new!”–2 Corinthians 5:17 (NRSV)
“Because of the sacrifice of the Messiah, his blood poured out on the altar of the Cross, we’re a free people–free of penalties and punishments chalked up by all our misdeeds. And not just barely free, either. Abundantly free!!”–Ephesians 1:7 (The Message)
**Please note these are my own views and are not necessarily the views of my church.
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Great insight. Forgiveness is such a hard subject. We think we are helping ourselves out by not forgiving and holding on to the hurt, but really it makes it so we truly cannot move on.
Forgiveness really is a hard subject. Thanks for stopping by.
Very cool concept, and excellent post. I have a love/hate relationship with the church because of the corrupt leadership I have encountered. God has really laid it on my heart lately that he has put me in a church for a reason, and it isn't the leadership. Learning to forgive, and just seek God's voice in everything.
Thank You! I am sorry you have encountered such corrupt leadership. That makes my heart sad. You are so right…God put you in a church for a reason and it isn't the leadership. Prayers as you learn to forgive and seek God's voice everything!
I think the world watches us…how Christians treat each other. It has been said that Christians shoot their wounded. It's me…standing in the need of prayer.
So true. Thanks for stopping by!
Such a hard topic. At Bible study this morning, we were talking about how we tend to compare ourselves to the worst of the worst and think we don't look so bad. In this case, the corrupt leaders have sinned so badly, they're a deep black color. In comparison, my sin might seem like a pale gray, and that looks really great compared to the black.
However, I'm comparing myself to the wrong person. God is pure white, and next to Him, my gray looks pretty dingy. We all need forgiveness, and Jesus died for every one of us, even the corrupt church leaders. It's hard to forgive, but Christ forgave us, so we must forgive others.
You took on a tough subject! Good job!
It truly is such a hard topic. I like the analogy you used from your Bible Study. That really is a great way of how to look at sin. And you are right God is pure white and all the other colors look pretty dingy next to that white. We all indeed are in need of forgiveness. Thank You!
This is such a tough topic because hurts are everywhere and wounds run deep. It's funny because I attend a Tuesday morning Bible study and we are going through the Lord's Prayer and today we talked about Forgiveness so this is timely! I think it is so vital to keep a short account and to remember that it's His kindness that leads to repentance… we are all in need of grace! Great job!
Karrilee, I am glad my post is so timely. Funny how that works sometimes. You are right it is important to remember God's kindness which leads to repentance. And yes, we all indeed are in need of grace! Thank You for reading!
So good. So true. So many wounded by not being shown kind welcome on the other side of their sin. Praying my heart would be wide open, offering the kind of Love Christ desires most from us! Thanks for sharing.
Wendy, thank you! I will say a prayer that yours and my heart are wide open to the king of love Christ desires most from all of us.
Always a difficult topic to discuss and more importantly apply in our lives! Some great thoughts. The Bible is so good at bringing conviction with encouragement and strength.
Jo, thank you! The Bible is such a beautiful gift; God's love letter to us, reminding us always of God's love, grace, and forgiveness. Thanks for stopping by today.
I too have struggled with the church because of leadership that is hurtful and self-serving. I have forgiven but had to move on.
Barb, I am sorry that you have experienced leadership that has been hurtful and self-serving. That indeed makes my heart sad. But I totally understand having to move on.