Falling into the Trap of Comparison

“What could I have done differently?” This is only one of the many questions that runs through our minds when we find ourselves in a time of unexpected change; of living in liminal space.

We so easily find ourselves falling into the trap of comparing ourselves to someone else. She is prettier than I am. She is smarter than I am. And the list goes on and on. Falling into this trap is natural, but God reminds us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

“For it was you who formed my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; that I know very well.”–Psalm 139:13-14 (NRSV)

We each have been given our own unique gifts and God does not want us to compare ourselves to others. I love this quote from Holley Gerth over at her blog yesterday,

Let’s never think we are more holy or whole than someone else. We may have cracks in different places, but we are all still broken and still beloved.”

That is the truth, my friends, in the midst of jagged grace, we are all still broken but we are also just as much or even more loved by our God. It takes the breaking to make us whole again. And in our new wholeness, we are whole but just a little bit more fragile than we were before the last awful occurrence of our lives.

God redeems us all in the midst of our brokenness through the jagged grace God offers each and every one of us. Recently I was reading “The Liturgy of the Ordinary” by Tish Warren and one of the quotes from her book jumped out at me. Tish writes, ”

I’ll hold on to the truth that my body, in all its brokenness, is beloved, and that one day it will be, like the resurrected body of Christ, glorious.”

Together, we are all broken, redeemed, glorious children of God; always loved and claimed by God.


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10 thoughts on “Falling into the Trap of Comparison

  1. oh, if we could stop comparing ourselves with other and second guessing everything we do! I learned that lesson in our recent transition.
    COming from survivors today.

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